Longing for someone to connect with? Not sure how to proceed? If you start stuttering at a mere thought of dating someone from a dating app, then this blog is exclusively for you. We will be focusing on navigating dating apps with confidence and self-respect.
There’s an old saying that goes something like this:
“You have to kiss a lot of frogs to find a prince.”
It was intended for dating apps for sure. Let’s dive deeper.
Why do I need dating apps?
Now that is a very good question; it makes one think a bit. If there are hundreds and hundreds of people I can interact physically with, why do I need to look more online?
If we continue with the frog analogy, it can be linked to the more the ponds, the better the chances of finding your soulmate.
You need dating apps to expand your horizon a bit and look at a lot more opportunities than are available physically. It’s a digital world after all, isn’t it?
They help you present yourself in a better way and get access to an already painted sketch of the frog you always wanted to be with. Sounds fun, right? However, a sketch is not enough if you want a foundation built from scratch.
There’s a lot of work to do, and you should be up for it. Here are a few ways to navigate and connect with confidence.
Throw Ego out of the Window
When trying to truly connect, keep your ego aside and focus on bonding properly. There’s no need to act all mysterious and strange.
You are not there to make each other solve puzzles, like rats in a maze. You are there to help each other out in discovering yourselves like frogs in a pond.
If ego reigns, your love subsides. Love and ego can never coexist.
Use Current Photos
Transparency and honesty are the keys here. Show them the way you look today, and be proud of it. The first step in accepting someone else is accepting yourself.
Your photos and bio can give off important clues to people trying to connect. Keep it clear and straightforward. Short hair, long hair, pimples, or no pimples, just show them who you are.
Maybe it all comes down to this:
“Adolescence is just a big walking pimple.”
Express Yourself Better
Do you like something and want others to know about it? Tell them. Do you not like something and want others to know about it? Tell them.
Expressions tend to set boundaries, and the way you express yourself will shape things moving forward.
Don’t feel ashamed of your emotions; own them and present them as you always wanted to.
Ask Questions
It’s an easy guess to say the least. What is the best thing to do when you have a question? Ask it. Confused and ambiguous dating can only lead to one consequence: disaster.
Ask them about their hobbies, interests, goals, and all the things you have to know in order to foster a better connection with them. It will be worth it. Shying away from questions will only leave you in deeper waters (another one of the frog analogies).
Questions and their appropriate answers lead to clarity and better understanding. Just go for it!
It’s not a numbers game
Dating has never been a numbers game; it’s more about finding someone who can give you better tadpoles. Meeting the most number of people is not the goal; meeting some good people is. It’s always the quality over quantity, as they say.
One might argue that going all out for numbers increases your chances of finding the right one, but the counter approach actually disproves it. Just take it slow and steady and focus on meanings.
“It’s not a sprint, but a marathon.”
Why hurry then?
Get to the Point
There’s no fruit in beating around the bush, only thorns. Just straight up tell them what you need and what you are looking for. If it works, it works. If it does not, then move on till you find the one.
This approach saves a great deal of time for the both of you, which you can utilise for yourself and work on your own skills and abilities.
Note down your needs and be clear in terms of what you want. No second opinion should cross your mind in this regard.
“Save time to work on being a better frog.”
Do not overanalyze
It’s fine to be critical when it comes to choosing someone who’s actually good for you, but keep in mind it should not harm your ability to judge. We tend to be overly critical sometimes, which might throw them off and might be a big disappointment.
It’s not an interview. You are just curious to know more in a fun way. Give things some time and watch them unfold properly.
It might scare them away from you; it’s not what we are after, right?
Do not overshare
Sharing is a good thing, but only when it’s done in limits. You can have fun and share things the way you want to, but up to an extent.
Sharing more than what is required can make you appear desperate and might put them off. It is a matter of self-respect, and it should be upheld at all costs.
Even though it appears uncanny, just share and expect them to do the same. Holding your horses can do wonders.
Now that we have gone through some important points to make your dating life easier, let’s move on to the final part and conclude everything as it is.
Conclusion
Dating can be hard, especially when it comes to dating people you have not met yet. Give yourself some time and take things slow. Rome wasn’t built in a day, as they say; you are no less than Rome yourself.
Dating apps can offer great help in presenting yourself properly and finding good matches instantly. Just make sure you have the right set of knowledge and direction to proceed with caution and care.
Relax, enjoy the journey, and make the most of it.
Which one of these ideas do you think works out the best for you? Did we miss something? Want to add more? Reach out and let us know.
